Just a woman at the Well
The Woman at the Well.. Chapter 4 in the Book of John. This happens to be one of my all time favorites. Probably because I spent the first sixteen of my adult life making the absolute worst mistakes a girl could make in the love department. Married when I shouldn’t have been.. having kids before I should be having them.. and if we are being honest being so obsessed with finding “My person” I really didn’t care about any of their red flags as long as they told me they loved me. Multiple marriages and four kids later.. here we are finally figuring it out. What did I figure out you might ask? Was it me? Was I the problem? Were they the problem? Was my picker just broken? Well it could be a little of all those too.. but the number one thing I’ve come to realize is the love I was chasing was never made for a man to fill. My soul was searching for only one kind of love and relationship, that relationship is with Jesus Christ. I was searching for a unfailing, perfect, real love that no human had the capability of living up to. Once I finally realized God was who I longed for the whole time.. I finally decided to surrender all my past relationship mistakes to him. I decided to keep my eyes focused on His will for my life.. and actually date his way instead of my own… what kinda change did that look like?..
Loving myself enough to keep high standards
Abstinence (yes, no sex.. even after four kids and having already been married)
Praying about any potential partner.. and asking God for His will to be done and to remove any counterfeits being sent my way.
Most importantly actively staying aligned with Him and His word, DAILY.
Have I met my “kingdom spouse” yet… no. I may never meet him and I can say with a full heart that I’m actually completely okay with that if it’s what’s meant for me. (If you caught me saying something close to this 10 years ago.. I was lying. The “I don’t need a man” front, was exactly that. A front) I do know I will never be starving for love and attention again. My cup truly does runneth over in that department.
If you find yourself in the same situation I was.. depressed and just wanting to be loved. Maybe you’re married and so unhappy because it’s just not giving you what you want and need. Ask yourself if you you’re searching for the right things in people.. or if maybe it’s not job for a person at all.. maybe Jesus is waiting for you at the well.
The Samaritan woman spoken of.. was just regular woman.. like you and me. Girl had a PAST.. and she was definitely searching for her man too. She had a bit of a reputation to say the least. She had become an outcast. The shame of her choices kept her isolated.. but what the enemy uses for evil.. God uses for good. Her isolation led her right to Jacob’s Well in the heat of the day.. whe no one else was around… except.. Jesus. Jesus showed up. In fact he made a very special trip just for a conversation with her.. Jews typically avoided Samaria during this time, but Jesus had a divine appointment set up with woman.
“Will you give me a drink?” Jesus asks her.. of course she is like “WHAT!? Why are YOU asking me for a drink? Don’t you know who I am?” A Jewish rabbi speaking to a Samaritan women much less asking for water was not likely at this time. Jesus responds.. if you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.”
So basically he is like “DO YOU KNOW WHO I AM?”
But she just becomes more confused.. she still thinks we are talking about real water.
He tells her to go get her husband. 😅
She I’m sure reluctantly let Him know she had no husband to get. 😬
Jesus: “You are right to say you have no husband.. you’ve had FIVE husbands, and the man you’re living with right now you aren’t married too”
You know at first when Jesus responded.. I was like dangggg.. Jesus why you gotta call my girl out like that…
But He wasn’t there to shame her.. he was there to expose her true thirst for love and acceptance.
She knew SOMETHING was up now..
and for the very FIRST TIME Jesus chose to reveal to the rejected woman sitting by a well.. full of shame and guilt… that HE IS THE MESSIAH.
He didn’t choose the religious leaders.. he didn’t choose anyone you would THINK he would.. he chose her.
Just like he chooses you.
What water are you drinking trying to quench your thirst?
Men and relationships?
Big house and nice car?
Addiction?
Popularity?
Sex?
Money?
Your kids..?
We all attempt to fill that thirst with something thinking if we just get that one thing then everything will be fine.. but that’s just a mirage.
Your Soul is searching for living water.. It’s searching for Jesus. He is what we need to make ourselves whole again. He is the missing piece.
And He is happily taking the long path around to get to you..
Because you are just the special woman He is looking for to share some good news with ❤️